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The Science of Body Language: How to Pose Naturally

Using Body Language to Look Confident and Natural in Photos

Hey there, lovebirds! So, you’re about to step in front of the camera, and maybe you’re feeling a little nervous about how to pose. Don’t worry—I’ve got you covered. As your photographer, my job isn’t just to take pretty pictures; it’s to capture you—your connection, your quirks, and the little moments that make your love story uniquely yours. And guess what? There’s actually a bit of science (and a dash of nerdy magic) behind looking natural in photos. Let’s break it down.


The Gravity of Love

Okay, let’s get a little sci-fi for a second. Think of your connection like gravity—you’re two planets orbiting each other, drawn together by an invisible force. When you’re posing, lean into that natural pull. Stand close, tilt your heads toward each other, and let your bodies relax into the connection. It’s like you’re in your own little universe, and I’m just here to document it.

Pro tip: If you’re feeling awkward, imagine you’re Han Solo and Princess Leia sharing a quiet moment before saving the galaxy. Close, but not stiff. Got it? Perfect.


Channel Your Inner Wes Anderson

Ever seen a Wes Anderson movie? Everything is symmetrical, colorful, and just a little bit quirky. While I’m not going to ask you to stand perfectly still like a scene from The Grand Budapest Hotel, we can borrow a little of that magic.

Here’s how: I’ll frame you in a way that feels balanced—maybe between two trees, under an arch, or in front of a row of colorful doors. But here’s the fun part—I want you to bring the quirk. Whisper a joke to each other, pull a silly face, or just laugh about an inside joke. That little bit of imperfection is what makes the photo feel real and totally you.


Stand Like You’re in a Fantasy Novel

Imagine you’re characters in your favorite fantasy novel. Maybe you’re Aragorn and Arwen, standing tall and regal as the sun sets over Middle-earth. Or perhaps you’re a pair of adventurers, ready to take on the world. Whatever your vibe, stand like you mean it.

Roll your shoulders back, stand up straight, and elongate your neck just a little. It’s not about being stiff—it’s about carrying yourself with confidence. Think of it as your “hero pose.” And if you’re feeling extra dramatic, throw in a little smolder. (Hey, it works for Flynn Rider…mostly)


Let Your Face Tell the Story

Did you know your face can make over 10,000 unique expressions? (Thanks, Star Trek, for that fun fact!) But here’s the thing: the best expressions are the ones that come naturally. A real smile isn’t just about your mouth—it’s about your eyes. Those little crinkles at the corners? That’s the gold I’m looking for.

To get those genuine smiles, I might ask you to do or say something to make you laugh. Or I’ll crack a terrible joke and see if you can keep a straight face (spoiler: you probably won’t). The more you relax, the more those tiny, authentic expressions will shine through.


Move Like You’re in a Movie

Stillness has its place, but movement brings photos to life. Think of it like a scene from The Lord of the Rings—even in quiet moments, there’s a sense of motion, like the rustle of leaves or the sweep of a cloak. So, let’s get you moving!

Walk hand-in-hand like you’re strolling through the Shire. Twirl each other around like you’re dancing at your own private ball. Or just sway gently, like you’re in your own little world. Movement not only looks amazing in photos but also helps you forget the camera is even there.


The Secret Sauce: Trust

Here’s the thing—the most important ingredient in natural posing is trust. Trust in each other, and trust in me. I’m not here to make you look like models; I’m here to capture you. So, relax, be yourselves, and let me worry about the rest.

If you’re feeling unsure, just remember: the best photos aren’t about perfect poses. They’re about the way you look at each other, the way you laugh together, and the way you naturally lean into each other like you’re the only two people in the room.


Ready to Capture Your Love Story?

Your wedding day is a once-in-a-lifetime adventure, and I’d be honored to help you tell your story through timeless, natural photos. Whether you’re channeling your inner Wes Anderson, dreaming of a fantasy-inspired shoot, or just want to keep it authentically you, let’s create something magical together.

📸 Contact me today to book your session or ask me anything—I can’t wait to hear your ideas and start planning your perfect shoot! Let’s make some unforgettable memories. 💫

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P.S. If you’re feeling extra nerdy, feel free to suggest a fandom or movie vibe you love. I’m always up for a little creative inspiration!

 

 

 

Ring bearer Alternatives

Little boys 5 and under in a tux is the cutest thing in the world, but sometimes it’s not feasible to have an adorable kid as your ring bearer at your wedding.

Here are 5 alternatives for a ring barer.

  1. Don’t have one. Just send the rings down with the best man or if the maid/matron of honor has pockets, she can hold them too!
  2. Have an older relative walk the rings down the aisle. If you’re really close to your grandpa and want him to take part in your wedding, now’s your chance! If you have a cousin or sibling that you want in your wedding but don’t have the room for them as a groomsman, they can be an extra enthusiastic ring bearer (with fanny-pack and all).
  3. Do you have a pet that’s special to you? Strap the rings to your pet and have someone walk them down the aisle.
  4. Use technology. Send an RC car or drone down the aisle with the ring. Bonus points if the drone can drop the rings into someone’s hand!
  5. Want to be extra? Hire a falconer to send your rings down the aisle with a falcon!

Do you have any creative ideas on getting your wedding rings down the aisle? I would love to hear them. Leave me a comment!

How to Address Dress Code for your Wedding

Wedding dress code can be a touchy subject to try to get across to your guests. Some are more than happy to be told what to wear while others may need a little more encouragement, or even visual cues.

Weather you’re trying to encourage guests to dress appropriately for the condition of your wedding (ie: a forest wedding with no concrete, or an outdoor winter wedding) or you want to encourage your guests to dress in a theme, I’ve got some helpful tips for you.

Step 1:

Polity indicate on your invitations what the dress code is. Don’t get creative, just be straight forward with your instructions, but make sure to word it as a suggestion and not a demand. for example, if you’re getting married on the beach in the summer, you could indicate on the bottom “PS the wedding will be on the beach. We suggest wearing appropriate footwear for sand.” Use words like Suggest, Encourage, Consider.

Step 2:

Reinforce your dress code on your wedding website. Here is where you can be creative with your suggestions and instructions. You have the space and time to indicate on your wedding website why you are suggesting a certain dress code or what the look you’re going for is. Again, be polite and never force any of your guests into a dress code.

Some things you can do/say on your wedding website:

  • Inform your guests of what the look is you’re going for. If you want to have a “Red wedding” you can tell your guests that you are suggesting they wear red because the theme of the wedding is “Red Wedding” and you want the photos from your wedding to look amazing!
  • you can use imagery on your wedding website to help show guests what they should consider wearing to your wedding. Have a bunch of inspiration photos from Pinterest or the internet and show some examples of what you’re looking for.
  • If you’re having a costume party wedding, you could also inform the guests that you’re having a costume contest at your reception and the winners get a prize. Make it fun for them and give them incentives to have fun with the dress code. This technique could also work for a black-tie wedding or an “out-do-the-bride” dress code. You could have a runway show with your guests and crown the winner afterwords.
  • Most importantly, be polite. No one wants find out their wedding website wound up on an “Am I the Asshole” site.

What are your thoughts? Do you have any suggestions you would add?

A Southwest Houston wedding photographer
Richmond, TX
kelly@kellyurbanphotography.com
Kelly Urban Photography

A Southwest Houston wedding photographer
Richmond, TX

A Houston wedding photographer